When we value ourselves, we align with what will support us, not deplete us.
All our woes: bad finances, unfulfilling relationships, less-than-perfect body, poor job status...all start from a lack of SELF-LOVE. I'm not talking about the self love you do in private, keep it PG people! I'm talking about the belief that we are deserving of feeling good, of pleasure, of having our dream job/house/ body/husband (or wife). That we are deserving of feeling abundant, creative & powerful.
When we create or inherit self-limiting beliefs about ourselves, we keep ourselves stuck and trapped in the same go-nowhere cycle.
I'm not good/smart/pretty/rich enough,
If I get all I ever wanted, I only screw it up,
If I become successful, they'll leave me...
My go to: I would refuse to be authentic or completely honest with people so that if the rejected me, it wasn't the real me and so I didn't need to feel so bad. I would rarely, if ever, share my complete truth or give 100% to anything. I would never finish projects, I would never go out on a limb or put my true self out there, I would steer conversations and never connect. I was too afraid that if I was authentic, no one would like me.
I didn't end this over night, in fact, I still slip into this mode from time to time, because as with anything, this is a practice. I started shifting this pattern by starting small with SELF-CARE. Here is a trick to generating self-love through self-care.
Sacred Bath Time
-Essential Oil of choice (I like lavender and grapefruit) 10-15 drops
-Pick at least one: candles, soothing music, incense, flowers/flower petals, crystals, bubbles...
First! Ask your family, roommates or whomever to allow 20 minutes to yourself. It's self-care, 20 minutes is NOT TOO MUCH TO ASK so ask for it!
Start a hot bath, put 3 hand fulls of salt and essential oils in bath. If using other bath stuff(bubbles/petals) add those to.
Around your bath, you can place crystals or candles, light your incense, turn up your relaxing music and get into the tub.
You can do a little water meditation, imagining the water purifying you body, removing anything that no longer serves you.
Soak for 15-20 minutes.
I like to make a cup of Yogi Tea Stress-Relief Kava Blend, but any non-caffeinated tea you prefer.
This bath is relaxing, it releases muscle tension and stress, and gives you 15 minutes to just be nice to yourself. When you start to relax and feel good, you might start to worry or want to rush or try to distract yourself from just feeling good. Remember, this is a practice, it gets easier over time to feel good about feeling good.
I want to know what are some self-care tricks or tips you use? What do you do to be loving with yourself? Comment below.
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Love & Light!